EWG has a Skin Deep database with scores on how safe projects are. The scores are risk scores, so the lower the score, the lower the risk.
Parabens and phthalates are just some of the toxins that are in cosmetics. Parabens are considered endocrine disrupting chemicals (EDCs) but not all are dangerous. Look at the ratings of parabens here.
Some brands of lip balm with a high risk include Revlon, Carmex (several), Lipsmaker, Bliss, Neutragena, Maybelline, Nivea and more.
If you go to Revlon Moon Drops you can see each ingredient and its score, and why its dangerous.